Speak Your Mind
How many times have you been told to do this? Or maybe wished you had? But have you ever considered that everything that has been stored away in that gigantic filing system in your head may not actually be truthful?
From the moment we pop into this world (OK, doing you Mums a disservice there! If only babies did just pop out huh?) our brains are storing things away. The time you were left to cry too long – abandonment. Maybe the throwaway comment ‘oh don’t be so stupid’ – self-esteem and self-confidence. You get bitten by a brown dog – brown dogs are ALL dangerous. The list goes on and on.
Our brains are wired up to protect us but sometimes they just don’t get the facts straight. They store things away that aren’t true, that are actually detrimental to your emotional wellbeing.
In addition to the above, we are gradually programmed that thinking and acting a certain way is the ‘right’ thing to do. You must have a 9-5 job, live in a certain house, be married with kids by the time you are 30, blah, blah, blah. So sometimes when you speak your mind, it might not actually be your own mind.
So, what do we need to do Sue? Well, listen to your gut instincts more. We need to tune in to what feels right for us, get a feel for how a situation sits with you and act according to what your gut and your heart tells you. At the very least, allow yourself the chance to question your thoughts and/or actions more often. Get curious.
I am not naive, sadly there are times when we have to be a bit more grown-up and look at the bigger picture and do things that don’t truly sit well with us. Like paying your rent when you would much rather book a month on a beach somewhere! But allow your gut and your heart in on the conversation too, that way it won’t feel like such a compromise.